by Paula Masters
The word insecure conveys not being secure in one’s self; not being self-confident. Most people who struggle with insecurity issues have had a lack of positive affirmation in different areas of there lives. This can come from unsteady environmental circumstances, family dynamics, social conditions, etc.
If you are suffering from the negative consequences of insecurity you will note that self-doubt plays a signifcant role. Do you find yourself depending on others for security? What about feelings of not measuring up? Have you noticed a pattern of avoiding certain circumstances because you feel insecure in them?
In a world that highly applauds and values confidence, struggling with insecurity can wreak havoc on all sorts of life opportunities. For instance, if you struggle with insecurity you may find yourself making poor decisions in your effort to over-compensate. The insecure person is often driven to attain a position of security (job, relational, social) only to crumble after making choices driven by that same insecurity.
Just thinking about the consequences of insecurity can cause additional stress. We would wonder how there can be any redeeming quality about it. However, upon careful examination one can actually mine and extract great opportunity embedded deep inside it’s precarious caverns.
Here’s what I mean–secure people often find themselves in a graver position of danger. Even though their circumstances are successful and their lives seemed charmed, there is often a propensity to place security in the wrongs things; things that are temporal in nature. The devil is always at work influencing this mindset to build on these faulty foundations. Often these folks are the hardest to convince of the necessity of Christ because they are rich in self-confidence and don’t feel the need.
The redeeming treasure found in insecurity is hope alone, in Christ alone. If you are insecure your heart is uniquely positioned to cling to a confidence in something greater than yourself! The implications of this discovery is fathomless! All the brokenness that has caused your heart to grieve as you considered what you lacked in terms of security all these years may be your greatest blessing in disguise. Trading in the confidence you are seeking in yourself frees you from agonizing over the unfortunate circumstances that have crushed you in the past. You can stop viewing your insecurity as a character flaw, and start embracing it as a hidden path that leads to the treasure of divine dependence. Here we exchange the debilitating effects of insecurity for dependence on God’s ability. God chooses this posture of the heart to display His glory.
“But God chose what is foolish in the world to shame the wise; God chose what is weak in the world to shame the strong; God chose what is low and despised in the world, even things that are not, to bring to nothing things that are, so that no human being might boast in the presence of God.” (1 Corinthians 1:27-29)